Find Confidence and Pride in Your Bisexual Identity
We help Bi+ folks overcome the confusion and insecurity caused by erasure by providing authentic, evidence-based resources and community support. We want to help you feel secure in your identity and able to talk about it confidently.
Being Bi+ in a world built on binaries is exhausting
Are you tired of struggling with:
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Bi+ individuals often struggle with isolation and self-doubt. You are not alone; 40% of Bi+ adults report they still feel isolated. Joining the community provides "100% support at every turn" (community member)
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Having your identity questioned, or constantly battling assumptions like 'Bi now, gay later', is exhausting and is a factor in anxiety and mental health disparities
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Mainstream queer and health spaces historically fail to report separate data or name bisexuality at all. This gap leaves us searching for reliable, evidence-based resources.
Your Path to Bi+ Clarity and Confidence
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Tune in weekly to the Give It To Me Bi podcast. We cover complex subjects, like Partner Gender and Binegativity in relationships, with nuance and clarity.
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Engage with our private community. As one listener noted, joining was "life-changing" and provides "nothing but amazing folks and 100% support at every turn".
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Download our comprehensive guides, PDFs, and resource hub for actionable next steps. And join the waiting list for our upcoming book or mentoring programs.
Meet your hosts
Steve Spencer
Chad Barnier
Authentic Voices,
Evidence-Based Answers
Hosted by Chad Barnier and Steve Spencer, we provide authentic lived experience, content backed by research, and nuance over binaries.
As a listener attested, hearing Bi men "discuss stories and answer questions to things I had wondered" made them feel "seen”.
“Before I found the podcast, I had lots of questions about “what is okay to feel” about being bi or what is or isn’t a bi thing. I was surrounded by people who were “lgbt friendly” but always spoke down against bisexual people.
Steve and Chad have made it much clearer to me that it’s not a simple conversation or even specifically a me problem. And it’s okay for me to feel or be whoever I am.
I guess what I’m saying is, thanks for being a safe and welcoming space for these sorts of discussions to happen. It helps a lot.”
– Dylan
We’re so grateful for the support and love from our listeners! It means the world to hear how much the podcast is resonating with you.
listener stories
“Steve and Chad your Podcast about living with HIV and how you informed and educated your GP inspired me to do the same. I'm a Bi guy of over 50 years and am now on PreP because I want to protect not just myself, but others with whom I have sex in all it's wonder. Keep the great work going and bring the Aussie flair to how you bring the message that it is great being your intentional self and celebrating it for everyone.”
– Rod
“It’s an understatement to say that Chad and Steve’s podcast got me through this year. I was struggling with a late-in-life realization that I’m bisexual. Coming out let me finally be the historian of my own life and tell my story authentically. But this all happened while I was married to my husband, and I felt lost, ashamed, and unsure what it meant for us. My mental and physical health suffered.
Listening to Steve and Chad grounded me. Through their steady confidence and validation, I learned who I was, what I wanted, what potential life paths I could pursue, to be proud—and how to integrate all of that into my identity. Their resource, How to Support Somebody Who Has Come Out Bisexual, helped my straight husband understand bi-erasure and why being bi still matters in a relationship. It gave us common language, and he took ownership of his biases.
Since then, we’ve listened to the “Bisexuals in Straight-Passing Relationships” episode together, gone to our city’s Pride parade, and even started a bi+ meetup group. I’ve gone from shame to pride because of Chad and Steve’s warmth, knowledge, and perspective. I truly owe it all to you two. Thank you!!!”
– Lena
“Before the show I felt isolated, especially as someone perceived as a lesbian most of the time when in reality I’m bisexual and non-binary.
The show has validated a lot of the issues I’ve been thinking about and helped me feel less alone, while also giving me an amazing education on topics I had never thought about!”
– Community Member
“Wife and I figured out we're Bi at the same time, so this journey has been beautifully-shared. We've both seen though, the difference between being a Bi man vs Bi woman. I haven't found it easy, and am not out.
BUT... then I found this podcast and BOOM, here are not only two bi guys talking openly and freely about being Bi, but one of them is in a long-term relationship with a woman! The simple act of speaking out loud, in public has been very empowering for me.
I've since joined the FB group and I'm dipping my toes into the community and finding nothing but amazing folks and 100% support at every turn. It's been... life-changing.
I just fkn love you guys. Such good energy, such beautiful interactions, wonderful conversations and correct-minded social commentary. YOU'RE AMAZING.”
– Community Member
“I had understood that I was attracted to more than just women for a long time. I constantly went through phases denying my attraction to other men. I also found myself attracted to non-binary and transgender humans as well. Before I found the podcast I had finally accepted my bisexuality but felt alone. I didn't hear men discuss similar stories to what I had gone through.
I remember listening to your Q & A video and crying. This was the first time I had ever heard bi men discuss stories and answer questions to things I had wondered. I felt seen.
I had told my wife I was bisexual previously but I was better equipped to have more in depth conversations. I have since joined several virtual bisexuality groups. I even met a fellow bi man in my area from your FB group! While I haven't come out to my family and friends, I feel more comfortable with myself and proud to identify as bisexual.”
– Michael
“It can be really lonely in some circles, even some queer circles to be Bi sometimes. I felt a lot of my struggles were only mine.”
– John
I love the confidence and perspective Give it to me Bi has provided as I've gone on my journey of self discovery.
I'm a 44 year old cis man who has spent years in sex-positive and kink friendly spaces, yet for some reason even though I'm comfortable with fluid sexuality I always felt like I needed to hide or downplay my own bisexuality. I would sometimes label myself 'queer' which, while accurate, didn't fully reflect what I felt inside.
Listening to the podcast has been a major part of growing comfortable calling myself bi around my friends and family, and this year was the first time I felt confident enough in myself to post bi pride on my socials. Thank you both so much for the pod and all the amazing confidence it's given to people like myself.
– Brian
I am 58 and I realized I was bi about four years ago. My oldest had come out as bi and this helped me reflect on my own sexuality. I came from a religious background and so I was pretty repressed sexually. Podcasts have been a revelation for me because I don’t have to feel alone.
When i listen to GITMBi I feel seen and validated. I always leave your shows feeling like “I need to tell my wife.” Maybe that will
happen someday.
All of your stories really resonate for me. Chad beautiful relationship with his wife showed me that i can be attracted to men and still be devoted to my wife. Steve’s sharing about coming out to his dad and then having his dad come out to him made me laugh and reflect on my own journey.
Your pod is so helpful. It helps us see that we are okay, that nothing is or was wrong with those feelings. That we can heal and grow and thrive as beautiful bi men. Through your example you show that this is an important part of us.”
– Darren
“This podcast has been essential in helping me be more secure and open in my identity—as a bi man, as a husband to my wife, and as a dad to my 2-year-old son. Chad and Steve’s perspectives have helped me to both find and create “queer joy” in my life, something that isn’t expected where I live.”
– Community Member
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